Who is speaking into your life?

Beware of your advisor

Scripture: Esther.1:1-22

These events happened in the days of King Xerxes, who reigned over 127 provinces stretching from India to Ethiopia.[b] At that time Xerxes ruled his empire from his royal throne at the fortress of Susa. In the third year of his reign, he gave a banquet for all his nobles and officials. He invited all the military officers of Persia and Media as well as the princes and nobles of the provinces. The celebration lasted 180 days—a tremendous display of the opulent wealth of his empire and the pomp and splendor of his majesty.

When it was all over, the king gave a banquet for all the people, from the greatest to the least, who were in the fortress of Susa. It lasted for seven days and was held in the courtyard of the palace garden. The courtyard was beautifully decorated with white cotton curtains and blue hangings, which were fastened with white linen cords and purple ribbons to silver rings embedded in marble pillars. Gold and silver couches stood on a mosaic pavement of porphyry, marble, mother-of-pearl, and other costly stones.

Drinks were served in gold goblets of many designs, and there was an abundance of royal wine, reflecting the king’s generosity. By edict of the king, no limits were placed on the drinking, for the king had instructed all his palace officials to serve each man as much as he wanted.

At the same time, Queen Vashti gave a banquet for the women in the royal palace of King Xerxes.

Queen Vashti Deposed

10 On the seventh day of the feast, when King Xerxes was in high spirits because of the wine, he told the seven eunuchs who attended him—Mehuman, Biztha, Harbona, Bigtha, Abagtha, Zethar, and Carcas— 11 to bring Queen Vashti to him with the royal crown on her head. He wanted the nobles and all the other men to gaze on her beauty, for she was a very beautiful woman. 12 But when they conveyed the king’s order to Queen Vashti, she refused to come. This made the king furious, and he burned with anger.

13 He immediately consulted with his wise advisers, who knew all the Persian laws and customs, for he always asked their advice. 14 The names of these men were Carshena, Shethar, Admatha, Tarshish, Meres, Marsena, and Memucan—seven nobles of Persia and Media. They met with the king regularly and held the highest positions in the empire.

15 “What must be done to Queen Vashti?” the king demanded. “What penalty does the law provide for a queen who refuses to obey the king’s orders, properly sent through his eunuchs?”

16 Memucan answered the king and his nobles, “Queen Vashti has wronged not only the king but also every noble and citizen throughout your empire. 17 Women everywhere will begin to despise their husbands when they learn that Queen Vashti has refused to appear before the king. 18 Before this day is out, the wives of all the king’s nobles throughout Persia and Media will hear what the queen did and will start treating their husbands the same way. There will be no end to their contempt and anger.

19 “So if it please the king, we suggest that you issue a written decree, a law of the Persians and Medes that cannot be revoked. It should order that Queen Vashti be forever banished from the presence of King Xerxes, and that the king should choose another queen more worthy than she. 20 When this decree is published throughout the king’s vast empire, husbands everywhere, whatever their rank, will receive proper respect from their wives!”

21 The king and his nobles thought this made good sense, so he followed Memucan’s counsel. 22 He sent letters to all parts of the empire, to each province in its own script and language, proclaiming that every man should be the ruler of his own home and should say whatever he pleases.[c]


The book of Esther is a book of favour. Favour qualifies the unqualified. Favour opens doors which no one ever expected to be opened for you because it’s not about qualifications and never fair. Favour is not fair. If you want fairness from favour you will be disappointed.

The book of Esther explains about the opening of gates automatically. Automation is triggered in all areas of your life. All things work good for you in spite of your effort.

According to the scripture, the King Xerxes asked his wife Queen Vashti to present herself in the presence of the king’s advisors; something that was against the rules of the land. Consequently, the Queen refused but upon enquiring from his advisors, the King banished the wife from his presence. From that scripture, that reminds me of what I always teach several times; beware of who speaks into your life. Beware of the people who give advice to you. Some people will pretend to be good yet they have ulterior motives. Your friend could be admiring your spouse and you make the mistake of asking advice from them over the character or mistakes of your spouse. It is obvious that they will give false and destructive advice which will separate the 2 of you.

According to the above scripture, the king was in high spirits because of the wines he had taken and made a mistake of asking wrong people; his advisors were equally drunk and thus were in high spirits. There was no way they could have given constructive advice because their decision making was seriously flawed. In the process, they advised the king to divorce his wife.

That is the problem with enquiring from one born of the mother instead of the Almighty God. It is always wise to consult your Man of God or God Almighty Himself than a man of flesh and blood. A man of flesh and blood will always make wrong and misleading decisions.

Various form of advice also come through the so-called social media; WhatsApp is misleading people and many have ended up divorced, imprisoned, in the hospital or in the mortuary. Children have become destitutes because of wrong advice or wrong people speaking in your life.

The question I leave with you is; WHO IS SPEAKING INTO YOUR LIFE?


We give all glory to God. Mbiri kunaJesu.